Hey guys,
Welcome back & tonight I'm bringing you Part 2 of my topic. Last time I shared my thoughts about intolerence and why I stand up for those who are different. But tonight I'm coming at you with the topic of fake people/friends. This is something I've wanted to talk about because when it comes to fake people/friends, it something that is serious and it's happening all around. First off, it's hard for me to put up with fake people. Because the thing is about fakes is that they make it so obvious about themselves and their personality is so transparent. For example, fakes don't appreciate candor. It's like too me the definition of a true friend is someone that you can honest with and they would understand you're situation. Being able to work things out is the best friendship. Fake people however refuse honesty & that's why when you're honest with someone who is fake, it results in that person looking the other way. They refuse the truth because they know that you speak the truth in regards to who they are. They don't want to understand where you're coming from. A person who is fake stays true to himself and doesn't want anything to ruin their image. That's why fakes are hard to deal with because they are so concerned about their reputation instead of working things out. So they often reject honesty because they can't handle it.
Now there are other reasons as well. Some times we blame society for causing people to be fake. Because we live in such a superficial society filled with different things that can control your mindset of things around you (i.e. priorities, education, career...) or the way we connect with others. I mean some think fake people is just something that occurs throughout high school but it's everywhere. Even though a lot of people deal with drama in high school but fake people are not contained in one place. It's widespread. So to say we only deal with fake people in high school is a false statement. But like I said there are other reasons. Fake people often don't want to escape their comfort zone. For instance, some times in your life you come across someone who is different (i.e. a friend who is gay/bisexual, atheist, and so on) and this kind of goes back to my first topic. But I think a lot of people (or fake people) are so concerned about how they look when it comes to friends who don't conform to the normal life style. It's like they will acknowledge them & it's easy for someone to say "I'm friend no matter what.". But I think sometimes people are so caught up in what the majority is doing. It's like it's easier for one person to hang out & to satisfy a group of friends by being part of the group but it's like ya might have one friend over here who is different & probably has a hard time fitting in. A friend who is constantly picked on or whatever for being different, and I'm thinking "hey... he or she probably needs someone to hang out with."
That's why some times I get so damn frustrated with people who just want to please the crowd instead of being the better person by being there for someone who is different. It's not like they have a disease or something. Now like I've said before, it's easy for someone to say "look I'm your friend no matter what" but sometimes I just think people are so damn caught up in their image. I'm not saying everyone has to conform to this or that but some times ya got to be the better person. So what if someone is gay, bi-sexual, or atheist? They are still human beings & at the end of the day, everyone needs a friend. Everyone needs someone to talk to. It's not about how ya might look or what others might think, it's about being a better person & having a more positive attitude towards the people who are often rejected. So what if your friends might think something is wrong with you? It doesn't matter what they think. That's why some people just need to get off their high horse every once in a while. Escape your comfort zone.
So overall, fakes are something I could discuss all day. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I do have flaws. But I think we could all be better people. We can do that by being there for people who are different from everyone else. People who get teased, picked on, bullied, and so forth. It's not going to ruin your image or reputation by being the better person. It's not up to your friends. It's not about what the majority of people think. It's being a good person. Now I'm not saying I have all the answers and yes, we deal with fake people on a daily basis. But we have to be better than that. Being fake means everything about you is transparent. It's pretty much putting on an act to conserve your image or reputation and I still deal with people like that. But all in all, I am what I am and I'm proud of being who I am. So it's been good discussing this. I know some people hate to read but I have fun blogging about stuff & I wanted to share my 2 cents about 2 very interesting topics. But thanks for tuning in & take care! :)
No comments:
Post a Comment